How to accept that some people just won't like you or want to be friends with you, with PIE.
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Well most women don’t like me. But for the most part;I realized it wasn’t me that was the problem? It was in fact them. The ones I approached online;was looks versus brains;but not two at one time met on the same path at one time for sure. But it was their overwhelming confidence of abilities that turned me off.i actually walked away from them a lot of times;rather then seeing them turn me down every single time growing up teen years.
But what are your thought so on that;and just joking around I heard;but you sounded better than most female singers trying to be serious on talent shows these days?! Lol.
I've been fighting for acceptance for as long as I can remember. Especially trying to get along with my coworkers. I feel out of the loop no matter where I am. Whether it's family or at work. Just wherever I am that requires being around people I feel disconnected. I'm beginning to accept it now and I'm ok with that.
I have no friends or girlfriend since my divorce three years ago
My kids worry sometimes about me being alone because I moved 500 miles away from anyone I know
But I’m happy I’m happier than I have been in years I do like people just don’t like being around people
I feel like this kind of video would've been much more useful back when I should have been making friends. Instead I decided not to talk to anyone so they wouldn't be afraid of me. Ah well, you win some, you lose some.
The whole idea of everyone liking me is overwhelming. I would hate constantly feeling pressured to adjust to meet the various needs of so many people. One size doesn't fit all and I am not a social chameleon.
Oh, I see your plan. Feed people by boosting their serotonin levels whilst in your presence. The association of the feel good chem's and you will be melded together. This is a bit like classical conditioning. Ha ha! No wonder people almost always include food with socializing, particularly business meetings. Don't eat the chocolate pie, you will be like putty in their hands. Must resist.
Nah something is wrong with them they're fucked up because real humans dont give a shit what you look or kind of act like, but when I know people don't accept me and treat me like I'm crazy around others and don't look at me when they come to me later I say "I wish you the best of luck" just say that when someone comes and ask you for something or try to talk to you after being a dick
Cute Video. I cooked for a lot of years so it was quite an appealing and fun video. Hahahahaha Never had a chochlate pie it sounds amazing. I do think you mentoned two of the most important ingredients in a sucessful pie. Love and Trust. I think when we put that into every dish it ends to be really good. So if people don't like those secret ingrigidients then they are proably not worhty to sit at the friendship table. All of the recipies must contain at least those 2 ingredients. Really helped bring my mood up and put some perspective on the differences of people. I know what I want in my cooking from now on. Thank You.
I was searching why people don't like me and I stumbled upon here from Google search. I love how you phrase and look at the issue in different light. Always thought that I need to please everyone, be nice to everyone, just seems like the right thing to do. I guess I have to readjust myself to accept and embrace that not everyone is going to like me. :D
People keep pointing out things I need to change about myself and telling me that "Some people told me that they don't like you or wanna hang out with you because you do this or that. I can't tell you who, but I think you should change so that more people will wanna be friends with you". This has happened to be twice in the last couple of months and it concerned overly loud and present behavior and being overly honest. That's just the way I am, though. I'm really not sure if people are just judgmental or if I'm really just that annoying to be around. Should I even want to be friends with people who say those things about me to my friends behind my back? This video helped, but I still can't help but wonder if there are certain things that I should change, because they're simply unacceptable.
This video reminds me of the quote: "You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world and there’s still going to be someone who hates peaches" by Dita von Teese. Hooray for metaphors! Great video and explanation. The song at the end is very catchy. Is she using a melody from another song? I want more!
I was struck by how Cristen was holding her whisk as she was mixing in the butter, and thought about how much my shoulders would hurt if I tried doing that. I then thought about sex/gender musculature tendencies to explain the difference, and finally realized that that makes another perfect illustration: People do things differently, and it doesn't matter whether those differences come from biology or background: what's important is what works for the individual.
You are a radical human! Just like you I used to always care about what people thought of me and took it to hart but at the moment I really could't care! Please continue being awesome! Greetings from the UK xxx
It's okay, and maybe even good, to not care what others think of you. But that's assuming there are at least a few people who really do like you.
What if nobody likes you and you can't change your "recipe" even if you really want to? Are you just stuck with being hated, and therefore, sad, and alone?
How are you supposed to know when it's time to give up on hoping that anyone will ever like you for you?
"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." - Dr. Seuss
I loved all the points you made in this video! I always try to do my best to channel my inner Seuss, but I will agree that it is sometimes very difficult when we get scrambled up in our thoughts. We just have to remember to be the very best selves that we can be :) Love your videos, please keep up the awesome job! (And your little song at the end was so adorable <3)
I find autism kind of makes things different i was younger i didn't really fit in with anyone that well. Now i've got older and kind of looking at people i fit in with best are for most part older and many cases agree with the older people about things.
During school sometimes people would just give me crap make fun of my name, etc. I just thought whatever don't care just ignore it. Sometimes it got annoying i told myself i bet one day i'll have better job than them, or invent something be next millionaire.
Interesting too my favorite country song since it came out is Billy currington people are crazy, the older i get the more i see at least in general there's truth to that. Everyones different to you maybe they're crazy to other people maybe normal. And that in many situations there's politics/nepotism involved some way some how. Even if that don't make sense to you it probably does to someone else even if they're wrong.
I love the sound of the Chocolate Chip pie! but I prefer a Lemon-Meringue pie...or Gooseberry Crumble...I might try the Choco-chip pie...
Just looked at the recipe...the ingredients are in cups...I work in ounces...conversion rates anywhere?
I really liked your point on this one.
Specially because the less you worry about the people who don't like you, the more people you'll attract. Because people are more into someone relaxed and calm than into someone completely stressed and worried. Calm around others shows that you're willing to accept them.
Great insights! I feel like I should spend more time watching your Youtube channel. I'm a long-time listener to your podcast, and while I love the banter and the depth, your videos are entertaining and informative.
PERFECT video!!!!! I LOVE the pie metaphors oh my GOSH!!!!! How did u get the idea for this video??? I used to be SO concerned about what ppl thought of me but it's like one day I just woke up and got over it NO LIE. I'd been praying about it and I feel SO much more happy now with life. I love ur videos, girl!!!! You've inspired me to keep going and to be myself!!!! :')
I really loved the chanson you sang at the end; made me laugh over and over again... hehehe. Thanks to your video, I finally decided to make only one pie, and don't spend more time baking other recipes that only tires me with bothersome comments.
I have an 8 year old daughter, and I can't tell you have valuable your videos have become in some of our discussions. I can tell her all day long "you can't please everyone, so work on being happy with yourself" and while i think that helps, having your channel to back me up or present it in a new way has been great. Sometimes mom does tell you, but hearing it from someone else can be what drives a point home. Thank you thank you thank you. My little girl LOVES herstory too, btw.
Even friends won't always be happy with who you are. I spent two years eating with my calculus teacher because my friends made eating anywhere else miserable. Then senior, they acted like nothing happened. I wanted to tell them I had no desire to associate with the people who had left me going home and crying and my best friend my own mother. But I also knew that doing so wouldn't make me feel any better. So I pretended that the last couple of years didn't happen. My mother said they didn't deserve that, but I got to the point where I realized that while I could be a friend to them and others who had been complacent in my bullying, the only opinion that mattered was my own. When I finally went to college, I met a lot of people who had never experience such derision and found myself the person a lot of people went to for advice. So while I hated what my supposed "best friends" did, I became a better person and a person that others wanted to be friends with since I learned to accept myself. And my college friends have stuck by me and defended me. Sorry for the rambling, but your video sort of inspired my own self reflection.
Thanks Cristen for that lovely metaphor! No one has ever made it clear to me that you can have a great recipe, but like real food, not everyone is going to like it. I tend to freak out if someone doesn't like me and obsessively analyze why that might be. But this helps me see that's pointless, and that I need to stop the habit and just live how i'm going to live.
this from the girl who made a video about how a certain number of sandwitches made by a GF for her BF as a marraige deal is SEXIST and chauvanist and . . . .. .
you have grown miss crissy, and that is a good thing.
May you always be comfortable with who you are.
Are you in a relationship with someone who really loves you for your "recipe", if you need to make 300 sandwiches before that person agrees to marriage? That said, it could very well have been a joke between the two, an interesting way to spend time together, and he might have done quite a bit for her as well - sometimes we take life too seriously. However, if I had that as a serious stipulation I might feel a little upset - my husband likes my cooking, but it seems like one part of the recipe, and not a condition.
Yeh I've seen some people write some nasty comments under your vids and a few people have also explicitly said they don't like your appearance, voice, video editing, acting etc. Lol, do you remember that one time you called someone out for sharing their opinion that you wore too much makeup so you went barefaced in a subsequent video? Lol, I thought that was a funny way to deal with someone not liking you but I like the "just say OK" mindset more. There are people that love what you do and think you're pretty cool and there are people that think the complete opposite; both are quite alright.
I feel like people may also have a change of taste if their taste buds mature or if they feel they have had too much of a flavor recently and need to broaden their pallet or they are just feeling stuffed and need to digest. Also, your pie is your pie but what if you decide if you want to be a different flavor because you yourself are tired of the same taste and want to broaden your range of flavors or change your flavor entierely, and should you have your favorite taste testers around you to make sure you find the flavor you want?
I have lost count of how many metaphors are in there but now i'm hungry for pie (actual pie) but i think it was a lot easier talking about this in pie metaphors.
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