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I feel they violate my character and my environment on a constant basis, and I've spoken with them... they don't listen just run their mouth and I develop a nasty headache while they're in my presence.
It's my first time to comment to a blog... I'm sorry but I don't agree about what you said that depressed people are toxic... What if he/she get depressed because of the toxic person who is around her/him.
I have a sister we are studying together at art college, she brought me there and talk that it gonna be great that she gonna help me(course I have never paint anything and she been steady an art for 3 years) but she dosent help(Will said ok I am gonna help my self and do all by my own but she always interfere me with some stupid question, or she stood right in front of me that I could not see a model to draw or she always ask about my stuff in front of all people very cunningly that if I say not all look at me like she hasn't help her own sister she really interfere with her behavior I have already try everything you said.
Help me please I don't really know what to do.😖😢
(Thank you )
Theres this guy in my school who copies off of my work. He says “hurry up and give me the answers.” I reply with, “I’m trying to hurry up.” He then says, “Your so slow. This is going to be your fault if I fail this class.” I couldn’t say anything back because I was too shy. I die little by little inside just by seeing this stupid dumbass that should just produce answers by himself. I have encountered people who copy me and want my answers in school for years and years. Some people just see me as an answer key, an object.
Thank you for sharing this video, I have found that everything you have mention this video is true. I figured out a long time ago that you do have to let these toxic people go, and that you can pick up their ways if you don't, some are like demons.Yes, a lot of times this will leave you by yourself, however a piece of mind is the greatest thing ever. Besides you will meet new friends again.
I had a colege who once bluntly said to my face that she doesnt want to listen to any negativity, i was complaining about something at work. I took her rquest to heart and seriously watched my mouth. The next few days i efficiently managed to shut up about almost everything that would normally come out of my mouth. In that period she probably forgot about her little episode. Nothing has really changed between us so she was still seaking understanding from me when i realized all she ever does when she has something to say was complaining... that was the big wth moment for me.. it made a huge difference for me on many spheres. Yes.. i too complained but so was she.. but she shoock me out of that nasty habit.. it's not like it lasted forever.. i still catch myself complain but at least i know it. If i was a good friend i would return the favor only i didnt have the heart to do it. Now, it's simply impossible for me to alert people they are such and such when i myself am even worse.. double bind
The thing of it is, Leo, is that this person who is giving me aLOT of grief, is a person that has to have a medical paper signed by a doctor for me, so that I can submit it to our insurance company for financial help. She won't do it. I have to "drag" it out of her. I've begged, pleaded, kissed butt to the max. Soon, I'm gonna go over her head. This, I don't want to do because I feel it may exacerbate the problem. Please help!
What about co-workers? Can't really cut them out or avoid them but i do try. I walk away, ignore or try to avoid them but then get constant remarks of being anti-social or too quiet but infact im just tired and drained from all the negativity.
Valuable information. A lot of these videos address similar issues with familiar strategies but there's always something that stands out and is helpful. I seem to have a blind spot in my vision at times. I appreciate these Videos. If only the children would be more interested. Think it's a calling to Help. Chosen... Good Stuff Man
Just sat here and took three pages of notes. I’m currently living in an extremely toxic environment.
I’m on a path of self growth and becoming independent.
It’s just been hard to keep from getting emotionally invested and worked up whenever I’m encountered. I’m naturally a very “to myself” type of person whenever I’m around toxic people. I try my hardest not to engage and ultimately fuel the fire. But when it’s constantly being thrown in my face and I’m being confronted with negativity with no way out, that’s when my emotions get the best of me.
I’ve started journaling and keeping a planner. Trying to do things to help myself stay organized, focused, and on task with the planner. But with the journal, I’m using it to note take different means of self reflection and growth techniques. For instance, I listen and follow along to my monthly tarot. So I started this journal out with a few pages of note taking from the reading I had at the beginning of the month. Skip a page or two, I have 3 pages of notes from this video. Things that I already knew but needed to be reminded of. Things I didn’t think of with dealing with toxicity. And ultimately, the overall goal (which is already my #1 goal...) BECOMING FULLY INDEPENDENT.
Thank you for taking the time to make videos like this. I’m very happy that I stumbled upon this one. And browsing through your other content, I can already see this is a channel I’m very drawn to. Listening to your podcasts will definitely be a means of adding more positive to counteract the negativity.
Preesh, man. 🖤🖤
Why because he is not always toxic. Sometimes he is supportive and loving Nd sometimes he is toxic. It's a mental health problem and he keeps promising I get help and he tries very hard so do you just give up on someone you love?
My brother and sister are toxic, I hate them but then they pull the "uhh who bought you this and that" card. And ontop of that I might have (not diagnosed yet) cyclothymia, or a weaker version of bipolar. It sucks dealing with their negativity, which causes me to get angry or upset. But whenever I feel ready to vent, scream, shout and cry, they won't let me. Like a recording of them saying "No don't do this" playing in my head over and over again.
getting rid of them doesn't always work i.e. family. i think forgiving them and focusing on forgiving and healing and shielding myself from their issues. i need God to help me cuz sometimes i want to shank these people. thank God no one can ready my mind
I’m 11 years old and I’m just on my game with my “friend” then his cousin says I’m a loser keep in mind his cousin finished college and I told him no I’m not and I was in a server with only my “friends” cousins they all just start being toxic to me and I ask do you know what respect is? Then they answer who cares if I do or not I said your family people don’t just go being toxic to others just because you don’t like others doesn’t mean you can disrespect them being respectful to people may get you far in life they tell me to shut up and leave the game I have no life your a loser in life etc I just tell them don’t cyber bully or be toxic to people you don’t like/know don’t you understand what I’m saying? They continue to say toxic stuff then I just ask my friend “why do you support this behavior? He just tells me to shut up then I stop talking then they’re so immature after I say open talking they said I’m a trash loser they said LOL HE SHUT UP etc I just tell them I didn’t stop talking because u told me to I just stopped because your the annoying toxic one and you don’t understand what I’m trying to say then they just keep being toxic
EDIT: forgot to mention they insulted my education when they were really immature and had no proper grammar
I find the language used in this video to be quite disgusting. I'm sure the poster would regard themselves as a compassionate person, but the language used here tells a different story. Describing people who suffer from depression as 'toxic' is far from helpful; apart from the fact that it lacks compassion, it represents a totally limited and selfish interpretation of human worth. He then goes on to label people as 'cancer'. Wow! - and he's putting himself into the public domain as an expert? What's more depressing is the number of likes. This guy is a 'cancer' (to use his own gloriously flippant, simplistic and disrespectful language).
I thought I was the only one who thought like this. I grew up with the blood is thicker than water. I always hated it. I had to cut most of my family including my mother and father. I have 5 siblings and I have no relationship with any of them. I only speak to my grandfather. My rule is would you allow a total stranger to treat you the same way family treated you? If the answer is no, then treat them the same way you would treat the stranger on the street. Remember people are just people, no matter if they are related to you or not. My only son wants very little to do with me right now, he is a young adult and doing his own thing. I could beg, cry and plead that he spend more time with me, or I can do what I am doing now and that is I don't call him or visit him unless he starts it. I figure if he wants me in his life, he will let me know and until then, I need to take care of my own emotions and general wellbeing. It is OK to take care of yourself first, dont feel guilty.
I agree that we have to remove toxic relationship to protect ourselves, however I am against the act of throwing relationship away, treating people like dirt without proper closure.
WOW! I am going through such people in my life and watched but, this was the amazing video which is very uplifting and gave me the answer to my dilemma...what do you do if you decide not to cut them off part
I quit my job because for two years I couldn't accept to cut them and lose my job. I cut my little brother out because he was using me for everything. Just getting away with everything cause he knew I loved him. He was toxic. Last night he came back into my life after almost a year and it was toxic . I actually called him a loser and a lazy bum and toxic that I had to cut him out. Of course, he wouldn't accept any flaws. The last time I seen him last year, I told him in person we could no longer speak. It hurt but I had to. I'm okay right now. But it sucks cause I practically helped my mom raise him. He was such a handful for her and I. I looked this up because of the episode that happened last night. It's bringing negative energy back into my life. Him and another person that he has dragged into ruining family members. They do it and laugh together. It is really cruel.
The things is there are no perfect people. All humans are toxic in a way. You will decide subconsciously what people are good and bad. This skill develops with time. Don't worry. You will find the right people. The oldest relationships are the best because you endured the toxicity of the other person. If it was too much it was gonna be over way sooner.
Misery loves company,When you see someone is totally negative REFUSE to play thier games spend as little time with them as possible.🏃 ANd let them know youre playing games and this is too much ✂ ✂ really toxic people out for a while until they get it! ..
This is an important topic.... VERY relevant these days. I think it helps to move around.... people are not all the same and everywhere you go you will finally figure that out. Hey, you can even mess up if you don't fit in and rather than live with it you can leave, taking with you the knowledge you earned. Suddenly, you realize you have evolved. I'm not saying it will be easy to begin with... you have attachments NO DOUBT. = (
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Yesterday I cut off a 15+ year friendship with someone who was always putting me down in subtle to not so subtle ways. And he did this via email while at a Buddhist retreat...over nothing that concerned him personally.
I have learned never to throw good time after bad with the wrong vibrational match. He mentioned how long we'd been friends as part of the guilt trip. I am sorry to myself that I tried to be so accepting and forgiving all these years. I also relied on him for work and creative help and that is where I was coming from lack so I learned more about that as well.
The judge of character thing does get easier, especially if you are empathic.
You nailed it!
This video covers all the aspects regarding toxic people.
You said all the things that I needed to hear so badly.
I have been troubled real crazy by some toxic people. I had some idea what I need to do... but now I have a clear vision.
Thanks a tonne...❤️
I cut out a few people and my life feels a lot better. Whenever, l think about making ammends l begin to feel stressed out. That is why l agree that sometimes you need to distant yourself or cut some people off.
I keep getting passive aggressive memes from my Mom. Apparently, about my behavior, even though I am oober busy working all the time or am just at home with my family (and hardly ever talk to extended family), somehow I guess I am "short, impatient, and harsh. And, I make her cry."
Every single time I read these things it makes me feel baffled and confused. It's so out of left field. Maybe it's some weird way for her to say she'd like metI don't even know what she is referring to. It stinks being strange unknown target of someone's personal struggles.
My voice is breathy and weak. No one knows why. People think I’m special, or deaf or sick. I deal with this on a daily basis. My roommate is ok with me, but he uses that to push my buttons when we argue.
My roommate completely drains my energy. It seems like he just walks around intentionally trying to make noise. I am mellow and like quietness. We were best friends throughout high school and roommates in college, but we have grown apart. I am less organized and have creative pursuits, he is OCD and super structured now. We just signed a lease for another year, but I feel I didn't have any other choice because I moved to this city to look for work, and wouldn't feel comfortable paying for a 1 bedroom. I have become depressed. He is still my friend, but being around him this much is really taking a toll on my well-being. I can't put my finger on exactly what it is
To be a person with religious believes or holding to some standard and values, doesn't make you toxic, and to be a happy person all the time and without being able to show when your feeling sad or negative, is stupid and turning humans to robots. this idea of a human has to always be positive and happy, and these terms we here from boss as, don't take it personal and you complain too much etc... are forms of slavery.
Guys you have the right to feel sad and to sometimes feel negative, you are alright to complain about a situation when it caused you injustice, you are ok to take rude conversation personal because you are a human and you are not just a number, machine or a robot. who took that right from you ? if you are feeling negative there is a reason for it, and people should see it respect it and solve it, if it at a work place, or even in a relationship. to be forced to believe that you are a bad person and toxic if you felt negative or sad, basically if you felt like a human, is the biggest slavery and it should stop. most of the nation are on drugs and weed because of this unrealistic expectation for humans !!!
I don't hate at anyone. So positive person even in the hardest situations. I highly respect everybody and expect the same. However, Sometimes people you see that are totally against you and your most private decisions just poison you. People that discourage, saying I am not enough, not good enough knowingly that they are wrong, trying to discourage and stick their own negativity, stick their thoughts to me and trying to make me believe, disrespect my privacy and my rules, talk or act violating my personality, people that blame for nothing and everything just are so toxic! Also people that think and tell and try to sow seeds of their negativity into me, or tell me I must live my life the way they want, people that want something from me and while they can't get it blame me on everything, and try to make me feel miserable and guilty, most men that put me down and discourage and dominate me just because I am a female, men that start accusing and insulting when I don't give a shit, women that try to dominate because they are jealous of me, all of these and other kinds of shitty people, like bosses that try to manipulate, and never happy with anything, I cut them all out! However, forgetting those tortures and mental stress is hard. Now all I need is how to forget all and keep going. Though, all helped me to know how the shit smells like. Now I run thousands of miles away from all sort of those dirt balls!
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